Today I’m welcoming in another guest post on a bit of sensitive topic that, like most sensitive topics, comes from the furries. Yesterday a thoughtless joke was made by someone (thank God not me this time) that hurt a number of people. The joke was regarding the pronouns a person prefers to use for themselves. The writer of that joke later made an apology, and I hope they sincerely take this as a lesson and an opportunity to better themselves and be more aware moving forward.
However, it also sparked a whole “it’s just a joke” thing for a lot of people. Given the current political and social climate, I wanted to say something. But I’m not transgender, and I’m not really a member of a marginalized group, so I have no place to speak to their feelings, emotions, or thoughts.
Instead, I asked for submissions about why the joke was hurtful, because believe it or not, if you’re not a member of the groups affected, or you don’t know many who are, it’s easy to never see past the end of your nose. Lord knows I can’t at times, and I’d like to learn my way around that and let these groups have their voices heard. Hopefully we can have a discussion and foster greater understanding of why the thoughtless things we say are hurtful.
But that’s enough from the fat white law guy. Without further ado, I want to welcome the following post from Z. Tanner, Ms. Tanner is a student, poet and writer living in the state of Utah. She is a Non-binary Transperson who is often over-caffeinated, under-slept and has a habit of enjoying a good cup of mead now and then. She also pretends to be a snow leopard on the internet.
While no one person can speak for an entire community, I find her explanation of why a joke is, in some cases, “not just a joke” enlightening.